We’ve compiled this list of questions based on the learnings of Kinky Salon in San Francisco and London and our experiences at other parties. It’s not definitive and the rules are of course subject to change dependent on the feedback of our community. But they’re all here to make the party all the more fun and safe for everyone involved.
Q:Is there an age policy? Over 18s only, sorry!
Q: Do I have to use my real name? What if my friends / parents / work find out? We take steps to protect the identity and privacy of all guests. We understand that there are professional people who wish for their private lives to remain as such and we support our guests’ right to use pseudonyms or nicknames if they choose. Our parties are private and the locations a secret. The Facebook event announcements are secret and not accessible to the outside. Our Facebook group is membership-only and optional: if you wish to be kept informed about Kinky Salon privately by email we can do so. One of the rules in the Code of Conduct is that all activities at Kinky Salon remain secret. Your folks won’t find out – unless you tell them!
Q: Do I have to bring proof of identity? If we don’t already know you, on the door we may ask for some way to prove your identity. It doesn’t have to be your passport – we just want to be sure that you are the same person who booked the ticket. If you wish to book under a pseudonym or use nicknames / alternative names on the night we welcome that, but we will expect for you to be the same person/people in the photograph/s you supplied when you requested membership. The longer we’ve known you, the less likely it is we’ll have to ask.
Q: Do you sell tickets on the door? Can we bring a new guest on the door? Kinky Salon is a community, a group of friends-of-friends, and so we want to get to know you in advance. We don’t sell tickets on the door or accept new guests on the spur of the moment because this prevents us from getting to know you. However, if you reckon you might ever want to come to Kinky Salon or know someone who might like it, join our or email us we'll fill you in.
Q: If we decide not to go, can we have a refund? Can we pass our tickets to someone else? Kinky Salon is run by volunteers and there’s a really limited number of tickets. We’re busy putting up fabulous decor and creating insane entertainment. There’s a risk of us losing money if people ask for refunds and processing them takes time. Sorry but you can’t pass your tickets on to anyone else – Kinky Salon is all about YOU!
Q: I’m new to Kinky Salon. Will I fit in? Do I have to “do” anything? Kinky Salon is a caring, embracing, warm community. We encourage you to dress up but there’s no pressure to do anything aside from being who you want to be. The playroom is one aspect of Kinky Salon and even for those who never enter it there’s a ton of fun to be had at the cabaret and with our various arty entertainments.
Q: Do you accept single men / single women / pregnant women / threesomes / groups? How about gay / bi / straight / trans / TV people? What kind of people get turned away from Kinky Salon? Yes! All of these people and combinations are positively encouraged, provided you fit our ArSe requirements (Arty and Sexy) …and provided you agree to our Code of Conduct and our Pervy Activity Liaison (PAL) system. The only people who get turned away are those who are not Arty and Sexy or don’t get the open ethos we’re trying to promote.
Q: Is there a dress code? Will I be refused access if I don’t dress up? Kinky Salon strongly encourages you to explore (and corrupt) each party’s theme in the way you dress. Creative, interesting, unique outfits are a great way to peacock and to enable others to initiate conversation with you. But at the end of the day it’s about self-expression. We don’t expect for you to spend lots of money or to wear anything you don’t feel comfortable or sexy in. But please be sure to leave the jeans, trainers, sportswear and t-shirts at home. If you have any questions about your outfit, feel free to email us.
Q: Will there be photographs or video at the event? Sometimes we have a photobooth, a videobooth or a professional photographer to take pictures of people in their outfits. We keep this contained in a certain area so you can choose to commemorate your experience or not. But no-one is allowed to roam the party or document the playspaces and mobile phones / cameraphones are to be stashed.
Q: Is there a cloakroom? What happens to clothes in the playspaces? There is a limited cloakroom for coats and early in the night we’ll make available a space for getting changed. If you choose to remove your clothes we recommend that you place them in a little pile and remember where your pile was. We will maintain a lost and found so if you lose a sock or a garter, just drop us a line with the description.
But people, please make sure your baggage (emotional and otherwise) can fit in the overhead compartment: we’d rather have two more hotties at the party than store your suitcase.
Oh, and please leave your valuables at home! We can’t be held responsible for your iPod or your Swarowski crystal eggcups.
Q: Can I bring my toys? Whether it’s your Lelo or your Lego, as long as it’s portable and you can keep it on your person, then yes.
Q: What are your rules on safer sex? The Code of Conduct contains detailed guidelines on safer sex and we expect all partygoers to abide by them. No exceptions.
Q: Is there anywhere private for us to play? No there isn’t. And please be respectful of the fact that toilet facilities are limited: the potty is not a playroom. We hope you meet some supercool hotties at Kinky Salon – but if you want private time with them, take ‘em home with you.
Q: What if my partner or PAL wants to leave early? Your PAL are still responsible for your behaviour even if they leave early. Please read the PAL rules – they apply to everyone.
Q: Is there any entertainment? Or, I’m interested in performing – can I get involved? Yes – there is a 30 minute cabaret before midnight plus a variety of entertainment that might include DJing, live music, cabaret, poetry, performance art, interactive mayhem…anything at all that you can imagine. Kinky Salon Copenhagen is built on contributions from the community so if you have something to throw into the mix we want to hear from you: firstname.lastname@example.org
Q: Is there a bar? Yes and you can use dankort.
Q: What time do the parties start and finish? What is the last permitted arrival time? What happens if I’m late or if I can’t arrive before the arrival time? We ask that guests arrive between 9pm and 10pm so that everyone can get to know each other and our door person can enjoy the party. Doors will close after this time. So don’t be crazy late on the night! If you know in advance that you absolutely can’t make it by 10pm please give us 24 hours notice. We’ll plan ahead and make sure that someone is there to greet you at your arrival time. Parties end around 4am.
Q: Can we stay over at the venue? Nope, sorry! When it is over, it's over. But there are lots of hotels around and busses/metro run all night.
Q: Is smoking permitted? Not inside the venue, but there is a designated smoking area.