Kinky Salon Copenhagen is a cozy, hot, playful, sexy, magic place for creative expression and sexual liberation
Kinky Salon is a non-profit, volunteer community with a healthy positive attitude towards sexuality. We arrange spectacular dressed-up theme parties twice a year. Our community is open to everyone of all genders, sexualities, body shapes, disability statuses and backgrounds. Be you vanilla or kinky; cis or trans; man, woman, non-binary gender queer; straight, gay, pan, bi or try-sexual, we invite you to engage in our artistic and erotic world. We believe in risqué ridiculousness, mischievous masquerading, the intelligent and the inane – and we believe that consent and communication make the best lube. The Kinky Salon movement is active in thirteen different cities from San Francisco to Berlin.
These pages contain information about becoming a member of the Kinky Salon, including our history, our code of conduct, and our PAL System.
For questions, contact us at email info@kinkysalon.dk.
About
Kinky Salon Copenhagen hosts artful, playful, fun, sex positive costume parties. We do sexy things in the name of art… and artsy things in the name of sex. But most of all we have fun, and embrace all kinds of people and all kinds of sexuality. The Mission of Kinky Salon is to provide a safe space for people of all persuasions to explore their sexuality without fear of judgment – in other words, have fun in a tolerant, safe, consensual, creative and diverse space.
It’s a not-for-profit community run entirely by volunteers dedicated to creating the most fabulously creative space. Kinky Salon isn’t like any other party on the scene. For a start, Kinky Salon is open to all genders, gender expressions, and orientations. Also, it’s not just about sex – it’s about creating a tolerant and thriving community dedicated to self-expression, creativity, participation and love. We believe these are essential to any sensual and sexual exploration.
When you attend a Kinky Salon event, you are not a spectator, but an active participant. Attendees dress up, play with the crazy interactive art installations, and immerse themselves in a co-created environment based on our quirky themes. And we’re proud to say that our crowd is the friendliest, brightest, hottest and most fun you’ll find anywhere.
Sensual, weird, sexy, spectacular and everything in between- our guests enjoy creating fantastical outfits. Partygoers are also encouraged to participate by volunteering to help with the event, performing in the cabaret, enjoying the diversions on offer, or creating an interactive persona for the night that fits the theme. And, because it’s run as a private party, it has an atmosphere where everyone’s friends and friends of friends. It has established itself in San Francisco as one of the most comfortable parties to bring someone new to the idea of sex positivity and self-awareness.
The History
Our event is the illegitimate lovechild of the 10-year running phenomenon in San Francisco called Kinky Salon, run by dynamic duo Polly Pandemonium (an ex-London native and latex designer) and Professor Violet (a jack-of-all-stages, from puppetry to character acting). The two realized between their experiences in the fetish community and the Burning Man community, they could create an event that would foster a tight knit, creative, playful community of freaks and frivolity. And so they did!
The SF Weekly described it best when they said:
“In a city swarming with sex-positive environments, the result is notable. Guests contribute more than bodies and cash; they contribute time, talent, and ideas, and they support each other’s endeavors both creatively and sexually. Provocative costuming, stimulatory surroundings, and explicit erotic experiences might be anticipated, witnessed, and explored at every “Kinky Salon,” but the sexual aspects are so integrated into the epicurean fabric of the party — the music, the dancing, the photo booths, the slide shows, the toys, the decadent surroundings, and the capricious costuming — that it might actually go overlooked by anyone who came for a slightly less ribald night of creative commingling. The fact is, as sexy as it is, “Kinky Salon” is not about sex, it’s about community-building…”
Kinky Salon spread to Sacramento, Austin and Middleton since then and reached Europe with the establishment of Kinky Salon London in the spring of 2010.
We ourselves know Kinky Salon from both San Francisco and London, and want to bring all the love, fun and sexy artsy stuff to you Copenhagen. We think you will love it, and look forward to build this community with you!
Caring behaviour is mandatory
The Kinky Salon Code of Conduct was created by the community and states our intention and our standards. We’ve made it so that it is clear for everyone what we expect from each other participating in our parties. Follow these simple do’s and don’ts and you’ll fit right in:
DO
Be creative about how you dress.
Actively participate and contribute when and where you can.
Be open and explicit about your boundaries.
Play safely and consensually.
Respect the space and each other.
Clean up after yourself.
Ask first and get explicit permission.
The long version
Be creative about how you dress. It’s not about having the most fabulous, over-the-top costume. It’s not about spending the last of your hard-earned savings on expensive threads. Imagination is free. A sense of humor is free. So just express yourself in whatever form is right for you. But dressing up in some kind of costume is a must, as it helps to create an atmosphere where everyone feels like equal participants. Standard streetwear such as jeans, khakis, sportswear, and the like are forbidden at Kinky Salon. Our door team will be checking to make sure everyone arrives with an appropriate costume.
Contribute when and where you can. The Kinky Salon community is created through the efforts of everyone involved. If you want to volunteer, perform, or have a creative offering, please get in touch. We'd love to hear from you.
State your boundaries. If someone makes you uncomfortable, for ANY reason, you should let them know. That includes touching without asking or saying something that offends you. Be nice, be graceful, but be firm.
Play safely and consensually. Be clear about what your safe sex practices are, and never stick your finger up someone’s butt without asking first.
Respect our space and each other. Being respectful towards each other and our environment allows us to build an atmosphere of trust.
DON’T
Make assumptions about others' wishes or intentions.
Linger unaccompanied in play spaces.
Cruise aggressively.
Get too intoxicated.
Take photographs.
Use your cell phone.
Gossip about what goes on at Kinky Salon events
The long version
Always ask and communicate about intentions, wishes, and wants - yours and those of potential play partners. Don't linger unaccompanied in play spaces or stare down others who haven't asked for this attention. Don't cruise aggressively. There's nothing more unattractive than desperation.
Don't get too intoxicated. Having a couple of drinks is fine, we are all grown-ups. But if you get shit-faced (or arrive shit-faced) we'll have to ask you to leave.
Remember: sober is sexy. We don't tolerate any drugs at our events.
Don't take photographs or use your cell phone during Kinky Salon events. Keep your phone stashed away. ANY use of your phone is prohibited.
Don't gossip about what goes on at Kinky Salon events. Valuing people’s privacy is an important part of creating a safe space where everyone feels free to just “be themselves". NEVER mention names or specific activities on any public blogs or message boards, or to friends outside of the community.
What happens at Kinky Salon stays at Kinky Salon.
You need at least one PAL to attend
To maintain a safe, playful, and responsible hedonistic space we use a concept called PAL – Pervy Activity Liaison
You must attend as part of a couple or a trio. Couples don’t have to be male/female. We honor all pronouns. Couples don't need to be exclusive or romantic (friends are fine!). But nobody comes to Kinky Salon alone, and everyone is responsible for the person(s) they come with. If you're single and want to attend Kinky Salon, it’s easy. Just bring a friend whom you trust (we call them your PAL).
You cannot attend Kinky Salon alone; you need one or two PALs.
You must arrive at the party together with your PAL(s).
You can’t PAL someone you don’t know. You must know them and trust them.
You or a PAL of yours have been to a Kinky Salon party before.
You should have your PAL before you buy your ticket.
Don’t shop around in public spaces as the Facebook group for a PAL and please don’t ask a crew member you don’t personally know to be your PAL.
You are responsible for your PAL’s behavior and they are responsible for yours! Know the code of conduct.
If either of you violate the code of conduct you will both be held responsible.
Kinky Salon is built on trust
Respecting the privacy of everyone attending the events is the responsibility of all of us. Not just the organizers.
Kinky Salon is built on trust between friends and friends of friends. We do ask for data about who you are when you apply and store this information while you are an active member. In order to have a history when someone applies to be involved in the organization, we store certain information about which former events you have attended. At any time, you can request an update or deletion of the information and we will remove you from the registry.
In the rare cases where we decide to remove someone (along with their PAL) from a party, we may store that information and block them from future participation.
Private cameras are never permitted at our events. Sometimes a documentary photographer is present. In such cases, the images are only shared with the community in a closed forum. Photographers will always ask for permission before taking a picture.
Tickets are only sold to members
Kinky Salon Copenhagen is a community, a group of friends and friends of friends and we want to know new people before they join. We don’t sell tickets in the door and we don’t allow last minute admit entrance.
Confirmed members of our mailing list will get individual links to buy tickets in time before the event. Once you have a ticket you will get a separate email a few days before the event that reveals the secret location of the party.
Becoming a member requires you to know someone who is already a member
Please fill out the Online Form and tell us about yourself, who you know in the community, how you relate to our way of thinking, and how you believe you can contribute to the parties.
Safety and consent
Our top priority is to keep our events safe so that people feel free to indulge their kinky selves. We want everyone to feel safe at Kinky Salon events!
Kinky Salon Copenhagen is a private initiative run by volunteers who have a fundamental commitment to consent practices. We cover these in our “dos and don’ts” and the opening ritual at every event. Moreover, the PAL system has proven very successful in maintaining a safe “friends of friends” environment.
Unfortunately, on rare occasions, transgressions happen. In such instances, we have a protocol to ensure as fair a process as possible. Any unacceptable behavior brought to our attention is handled discreetly, and we take appropriate action based on the specific circumstances and the extent of the matter. A representative group of at least three people from the organizing crew discusses the issue and strives to consider the viewpoints of all parties involved. Typically, the organizers will decide on “a cooling off period” where an individual is prevented from participating in KSC events for a set period of time. For serious offenses, permanent exclusion is possible. These matters are highly sensitive and are treated with confidentiality, empathy, and respect for the privacy of the people involved.
If you encounter any consent-related issues, please report them to any member of the Kinky Salon organizing crew or write to info@kinkysalon.dk.
Contact
For questions, please email info@kinkysalon.dk.